A little pissy, a lot over it.

I don't have anything inspirational right now or this week. It kinda sucks when someone you care about doesn't seem to care about your well being. It would be super easy for me to send a quick text, but I won't - I can't. Instead ladies, let's put his lack of interest to good use. Let it be another reason why you are so much better without him. Don't let that feeling of rejection motivate you to contact him. Use that feeling of rejection as a tool to help you Not contact him.

What? Are you too busy? Doing it for my benefit? All lies. The sooner you accept that very rarely is he doing it for your benefit - the happier you'll be. More often than not, it's just that he has moved on and that whole I want to be friends deal - crap. So as you feel your fingers itch to text, even if it is to just say hi - he wins. For every text, call, email - he wins. Always keep in mind: if he was interested, he'd know where to find you. If he cares to know how you are doing - he knows your number. Trust me it's not easy and I'm constantly reminding myself.

I have always reached out. I always convince myself it's not a big deal and that life's too short to play games. This isn't a game though - it is my reality. It is a big deal that he has not once tried to text, call - just to say hey, how are you, have a good week. Ladies, he is not staying at home wondering about you nor does have these very moments of temptations. No, instead he is living his life with the smug knowledge that eventually you are going to make contact. Jerk. 

Prove him wrong, prove yourself wrong. For once in this long tale - put yourself first. Women cannot help themselves - almost. Our emotional attachments run deep and fog our reason. We are not very good at pretending we don't care and we're terrible at disengaging. Yet, it is very possible.

Before you reach for that phone - ask yourself this: What has he done for you lately? What interest has he shown? You and I both know the answers to the questions.

Tip: Reread your list of negative attributes and reasons why the relationship did not work. It's good to remind yourself of that - we are too eager to put on those rose colored glasses.

namaste.